We live in a society where understanding what men wants and needs are have been misunderstood when in reality it has been very simple! For years women have not been very inclusive in building relationships as a team, but instead for self-benefit and security! The lack of understanding has resulted in fatherless homes, an increase in divorce rates, and a decrease in marriages and long-term relationships in general. Before we get into the topic we must not enter this space of understanding with a mindset of entitlement.
Being submissive to a man in your relationship does not mean as a woman you lose the ability for your point of view and feelings to be heard. Submission is a form of respect to a man which allows him to be the provider and leader in the relationship and trust the decisions that he makes. A man's role in the relationship is to take the initiative within the relationship. Women tend to think of being submissive in the relationship as being under control, a dictatorship, or being under micromanagement construct as that is not the case. Being submissive you must humble yourself when it comes to interjecting while he is leading the relationship as well as making sure his sexual desires and needs are met. Submission breeds trust, and a healthy relationship and holds order in the roles which we play in the relationship.
According to studies men are said to be intimidated by women who are highly educated and very ambitious. In many cases that may be true seeing as if it may expose insecurities and vulnerability amongst men. While in other cases men find women who show strength and independence to be an attractive feminine quality. The issue that men have with women who are financially independent and highly educated is that they have a hard time staying in their role as the woman and letting him lead. Some women may feel as if they don't need a man, but perhaps just want a man which time has shown us is a fail in most cases. This becomes very problematic and men feel unappreciated in the relationship. Men love women who can challenge them intellectually so being smart is a bonus. When dating a highly educated independent woman, finding a balance is highly recommended and beneficial. Men prefer you to be the boss at work and express your feminine side at home. Independence exudes confidence which is considered a very sexy trait for men. Men are more attracted to women who can maintain self-identity as well as be their partners.
Men are visual beings. Once the relationship is secured women will fall off appearance-wise from what attracted the man in the first place. Being consistent visually will for sure make the relationship stronger, especially on an intimate level.
Ladies treat your man right. Just because a man is not vocal about what he wants does not mean he does not want anything. Hey! The thought does count. Give compliments men like to feel loved and appreciated as well. Make sure you acknowledge the things he does. Yes, you may spice things up for him sexually, but there is more to keeping a man happy besides just sex. What does he like? What is his interest intellectually? What are his favorite foods and places he likes to go eat? Men like surprises as well as spontaneous partners.
Encourage him don't put forth the effort to change him that is not your place. Create a bond and a space for open communication. Be compassionate and support him. Your man should feel comfortable expressing their feelings and emotions to you. Having companionship, transparency, love, and understanding brings so much value and growth to the relationship.
EXTRAS MEN LIKE!!
- SHUT UP!!! BE HIS PEACE!!
- Low body count (sexual partners)
- Good hygiene and cleanliness
- Bring something to the table.... (that does not include you.... you are not the table)
- A challenge to his mental lack of mental stimulation results in a loss of interest
- Stop telling your friends and family about relationship business
- He wants to feel desired
- Support
- Feminine qualities
- Being able to compromise
- GIVE HIM SPACE!
- Clear communication and straightforwardness
- Make sure he is a priority
- Be open to new experiences
- Manipulation- free relationship
- Don't overstep his boundaries
